Susan Kane
Introvert. How to win the peculiarity of your character
To all members of my homeland
The nation, in the same skin as General Patton, would have reached no more success, lower people, in the same skin as Vincent van Gogh. I would like to think that our planet needs athletes, philosophers, sex symbols, artists, women; It has its own role for sane and callous, rational and easily vulnerable people. Light needs those who dedicate their lives to the achievement of the specifics of work sly vines in dogs, and also those who can imagine a short cherry blossom in a field of fourteen warehouses, or dedicate twenty-five sides to the description of a little lad, who lies in the silence of the night on his bed, watching his mother in the morning.
The presence of some clearly expressed talent to witness that it was sacrificed...
Allan Sean
Formally, I worked on this book from 2005, but in fact, all my life. I spoke and corresponded with hundreds, if not thousands of people, discussing food, presented in the book, she read large number books, scientific and journal articles, discussions on forums and blogs. I quote some of the authors verbatim, the thoughts of others permeate the skin proposition of this book.
The book "shoulders on the shoulders" of rich people, the best of their knowledge and successes, whose robots taught me a lot. In an ideal world, I perekhuvala b usіh i skin s quiet, who helped me and shared knowledge. But in order to secure the reader in the face of the endless stream of names, the deacons of the authors are more likely to guess at the distribution of "Primіtki".
For the same reason, I sometimes lowered my paws, quoting other people, but at the same time I respectfully lashed out, so that the new words did not create the sensation invested in them by the author. If you want to learn about the original and other ideas, you can find the report copy at the “Notes” distribution.
I have changed the names and descriptions of the identity of a number of people, whose stories I bring here, like the stories of my lawyer practice. In order not to intrude into the special life of the participants in the seminars of Charles di Cagno, they didn’t know how to become characters in the book by signing up for courses; the history of my first seminar and the composition of the outrageous battles for the entire hour of training. Those same stories of Greg and Emily, as chosen in interviews with rich couples. Due to the imperfection of my memory, there is a lot of history in the way I remember them. I should also say that I didn’t revise their authenticity, having put in the book only those, as if they were plausible to me.
Entry
Pole of temperament(1)
Montgomery, Alabama. First breast 1955 (2). Early evening. The Russian bus is ringing, and a modestly dressed woman of the fates forty enters before the new one. Your position is straight, without regard for those who spent the whole day out, shirking over the old doshka in the basement of the hall of the mist's department store. Your legs are swollen, your shoulders are aching in the face. She sits at the first row of the “coloured” section and calmly watches, like the bus reminds the passengers. So the dots continue, the waters do not ask for a place for a white passenger.
A woman will say one word, as if every year will give life to one of the most important forces in the struggle for community rights in the 20th century - a word, like a vide America on the path of moral renewal.
The whole word is ni.
Water threaten to arrest її.
You can do it, - says Rosa Parks.
A policeman arrives. Vіn ask Parks why she was forced to give up money.
And why do you constantly tell us where it is wrong to know? - Just say out.
I can’t understand, - it’s like wine, - ale - the law is the law! - you are arrested.
On the day of the court's review, її they recognize the guilt of the anti-righteous behavior and sue. Due to the guilt of the National Association for the Progress of the Colored Population in Montgomery, to hold a rally at the Parks support at the Baptist Church on Holt Street near the most important district of the city. Five thousand people were chosen to acclaim the self-made act of masculinity of a woman. The stench squeezes through to the church, the docks of all the lava do not seem to be occupied. Tі, hto zalishivsya, to be brought to the check call and hear the system of a good movement. Reverend Martin Luther King, the youngest, rages to the attack. “The hour is coming when people get tired. We got here this evening in the evening, to tell them who so long and badly stood before us, that our patience was snatched away. We languished at the segregation and humiliation, we languished at the slanderous fists of the rotten ones.
Vіn vіhvalyає vіdvagu Parks and obіymaє її. All the whole hour, you will quietly stand in order with him, and there is not enough presence to inhale enthusiasm and strength in NATO. The Association is launching a global campaign to boycott buses for 381 days. People go pishki pratsyuvati tsili mi chi, voting on the roads, asking strangers to bring them. They change the course of American history with their behavior.
I have always shown myself Rosa Parks as a stately woman with a wink in her eyes - in a word, such a person, as it was easy to hear in a bus, full of passengers. However, after її death in 2005, there were 92 years of death in 92 years, and the obituaries described її as a woman of small stature, a soft-spoken woman, with an accepting character. It was said about her that she was "modest and stingy", ale small "left widvagu". In the descriptions, there were a lot of phrases such as "deep humility" and "quiet steadfastness". What does it mean to be quiet and steady? What do you think about it? How can you be modest at the same time і vіdvamim?
Parks, it seems, seeing this paradox, called her biography “Quiet Strength” - and she called us to look over her statement about strength and steadfastness. Why is it quiet can't be strong? What can you do from peace, about which we didn’t guess before?
* * *Our life is determined by character not less strongly, less by race or status. І the main rice of specialness - “pіvdennym i pіvnіchnym pole of temperament”, in the words of one venerable one, - belonging to an extroverted or introverted type. The degrees of diversity of these traits are poured into our behavior, into the choice of a stake of friends and acquaintances, the manner of leading a rozmov, the way to overcome problems and show love. Skill to extraversion and introversion infuse the choice of profession and success in them. She is the one who signifies our responsibility to take care of physical rights; vyznaє skhilnіst up to adultery; vplivaє zdatnіst normally functioning for the minds of insufficient sleep; zmushu navchatisya at their pardons, or pragmatic risky grills on the exchange market, and also spitting on the building, pacifying in the face of satisfaction; Be a good leader and find alternative ways. Mustache nervous system, її individual features. Today's introversion and extraversion are one of the most deeply studied features of particularity, and the interest of psychologists to tsієї those, like before, even higher. For the rest of the rocks for help modern technologies the successors made impersonal marvelous remarks.
Interest in nutrition about temperament may be even more deeply rooted. The poets and philosophers sang over the character of a person from the cob of hours - we can judge from historical documents. Descriptions of both types of specialties are recorded in the Bible (9), in the robots of doctors Ancient Greece that Rome. Deyakі evolutionary psychologists stverdzhuyut (10) that the application of extroverted and introverted behavior of individuals can be known in the world of creatures: introverts and extraverts grow like the middle of fruit flies, and the middle of high-rhesus monkeys. Like in the case with the other important pairs of proportions - the man and the woman, the Skhod and the Sunset, the liberal and the conservative - the people would be significantly less diverse without two special types.
Let's take a look at the butt of the tandem of Rosie Parks and Martin Luther King Jr. A vociferous speaker, as if she had been forced to give up her money on the bus, not having done the same effect, like a quiet woman, as if she were willing to behave modestly, as if the situation was not over the top. Parks wouldn't go so far as to start a NATO, think of going out to the podium and declaring that there is a world in her. Ale Zavdyaki King їy i didn’t have a chance to work.
And all the same, socially praised vvazhaetsya even a narrow range of manifestation of special features. It seems to us that being successful means being happy, and being happy means living easily with people. We bachim ourselves a nation of extroverts and, henceforth, we don’t take it to respect who I am in truth. The results of various studies, depending on how far you are from them, show that a third to a half of Americans are introverted, in other words, one of two or three of them, with what you know(eleven). (Because the United States is considered one of the most extroverted (12) nations, the number of introverts can be at least not the lowest in other parts of the world.) If you yourself are not an introvert, then you can be a relative, a friend of yours.
To all members of my homeland
The nation, in the same skin as General Patton, would have reached no more success, lower people, in the same skin as Vincent van Gogh. I would like to think that our planet needs athletes, philosophers, sex symbols, artists, women; It has its own role for sane and callous, rational and easily vulnerable people. The world needs those who dedicate their lives to the specifics of the work of blue worms in dogs, as well as those who can briefly imagine the cherry blossoms in the field of fourteen warehouses, or dedicate twenty-five sides to the description of our little lad, kissing your mother's bed before going to bed.
The presence of some clearly expressed talent to witness that it was sacrificed...
© Susan Cain 2012
Formally, I worked on this book from 2005, but in fact, all my life. I spoke and corresponded with hundreds, if not thousands of people, discussing nutrition presented in books, and read a great number of books, scientific and journal articles, discussions on forums and blogs. I quote some of the authors verbatim, the thoughts of others permeate the skin proposition of this book.
The book "shoulders on the shoulders" of rich people, the best of their knowledge and successes, whose robots taught me a lot. In an ideal world, I perekhuvala b usіh i skin s quiet, who helped me and shared knowledge. But in order to secure the reader in the face of the endless stream of names, the deacons of the authors are more likely to guess at the distribution of "Primіtki".
For the same reason, I sometimes lowered my paws, quoting other people, but at the same time I respectfully lashed out, so that the new words did not create the sensation invested in them by the author. If you want to learn about the original and other ideas, you can find the report copy at the “Notes” distribution.
I have changed the names and descriptions of the identity of a number of people, whose stories I bring here, like the stories of my lawyer practice. In order not to intrude into the special life of the participants in the seminars of Charles di Cagno, they didn’t know how to become characters in the book by signing up for courses; the history of my first seminar and the composition of the outrageous battles for the entire hour of training. Those same stories of Greg and Emily, as chosen in interviews with rich couples. Due to the imperfection of my memory, there is a lot of history in the way I remember them. I should also say that I didn’t revise their authenticity, having put in the book only those, as if they were plausible to me.
Montgomery, Alabama. First breast 1955 (2). Early evening. The Russian bus is ringing, and a modestly dressed woman of the fates forty enters before the new one. Your position is straight, without regard for those who spent the whole day out, shirking over the old doshka in the basement of the hall of the mist's department store. Your legs are swollen, your shoulders are aching in the face. She sits at the first row of the “coloured” section and calmly watches, like the bus reminds the passengers. So the dots continue, the waters do not ask for a place for a white passenger.
Zhіnka vovlyaє one-single word, like a year to give life to one of the most important ruhіv fight for the rights of the people in the XX century, - a word, like a vivede America on the path of moral renewal.
The whole word is ni.
Water threaten to arrest її.
- You can tell me, - says Rosa Parks.
A policeman arrives. Vіn ask Parks why she was forced to give up money.
- And why do you constantly tell us, why should we know? - Just say out.
- I can’t understand, - it’s like wine, - but the law is the law! - you are arrested.
On the day of the court's review, її they recognize the guilt of the anti-righteous behavior and sue. Due to the guilt of the National Association for the Progress of the Colored Population in Montgomery, to hold a rally at the Parks support at the Baptist Church on Holt Street near the most important district of the city. Five thousand people were chosen to acclaim the self-made act of masculinity of a woman. The stench squeezes through to the church, the docks of all the lava do not seem to be occupied. Tі, hto zalishivsya, to be brought to the check call and hear the system of a good movement. Reverend Martin Luther King, the youngest, rages to the attack. “The hour is coming when people get tired. We got here this evening in the evening, to tell them who so long and badly stood before us, that our patience was snatched away. We languished at the sight of segregation and humiliation, we languished at the slanderous fists of rotten people.
Vіn vіhvalyає vіdvagu Parks and obіymaє її. All the whole hour, you will quietly stand in order with him, and there is not enough presence to inhale enthusiasm and strength in NATO. The Association is launching a global campaign to boycott buses for 381 days. People go pishki pratsyuvati tsili mi chi, voting on the roads, asking strangers to bring them. They change the course of American history with their behavior.
I have always shown myself Rosa Parks as a stately woman with a wink in her eyes - in a word, such a person, as it was easy to hear in a bus, full of passengers. However, after її death in 2005, there were 92 years of death in 92 years, and the obituaries described її as a woman of small stature, a soft-spoken woman, with an accepting character. It was said about her that she was "modest and stingy", ale small "left widvagu". In the descriptions, there were a lot of phrases such as "deep humility" and "quiet steadfastness". What does it mean to be quiet and steady? What do you think about it? How can you be modest at the same time і vіdvamim?
Parks, it seems, seeing this paradox, called her biography "Quiet Strength" - and she called us terrified to look at her statement about strength and steadfastness. Why is it quiet can't be strong? What can you do from peace, about which we didn’t guess before?
Our life is determined by character not less strongly, less by race or status. І the main rice of specialness - “pіvdenim and pіvnіchnym pole of temperament”, in the words of one venerable one, - belonging to an extroverted or introverted type. The degrees of diversity of these traits are poured into our behavior, into the choice of a stake of friends and acquaintances, the manner of leading a rozmov, the way to overcome problems and show love. Skill to extraversion and introversion infuse the choice of profession and success in them. She is the one who signifies our responsibility to take care of physical rights; vyznaє skhilnіst up to adultery; vplivaє zdatnіst normally functioning for the minds of insufficient sleep; zmushu navchatisya at their pardons, or pragmatic risky grills on the exchange market, and also spitting on the building, pacifying in the face of satisfaction; Be a good leader and explore alternative ways. Mustaches are conditioned by the mechanism of functioning of the nervous system, and by individual features. Today's introversion and extraversion are one of the most deeply studied features of particularity, and the interest of psychologists to tsієї those, like before, even higher. For the rest of the years, for the help of modern technologies, the successors made a lot of marvelous revelations.
Interest in nutrition about temperament may be even more deeply rooted. The poets and philosophers sang over the character of a person from the cob of hours - we can judge from historical documents. Descriptions of both types of special features are found in the Bible (9), in the works of doctors of Ancient Greece and Rome. Deyakі evolutionary psychologists stverdzhuyut (10) that the application of extroverted and introverted behavior of individuals can be known in the world of creatures: introverts and extraverts grow like the middle of fruit flies, and the middle of high-rhesus monkeys. Like in the case with the other important pairs of proportions - the man and the woman, the Skhod and the Sunset, the liberal and the conservative - the people would be significantly less diverse without two special types.
Let's take a look at the butt of the tandem of Rosie Parks and Martin Luther King Jr. A vociferous speaker, as if she had been forced to give up her money on the bus, not having done the same effect, like a quiet woman, as if she were willing to behave modestly, as if the situation was not over the top. Parks would not have gone so far as to start a NATO, think of going out to the podium and declaring that she had a dream. Ale Zavdyaki King їy i didn’t have a chance to work.
And all the same, socially praised vvazhaetsya even a narrow range of manifestation of special features. It seems to us that being successful means being happy, and being happy means living easily with people. We bachim ourselves a nation of extroverts and, henceforth, we don’t take it to respect who I am in truth. The results of various studies, depending on how far you are from them, show that a third to a half of Americans are introverted, in other words, one of two or three of them, with what you know(eleven). (Because the United States is considered one of the most extroverted (12) nations, the number of introverts can be at least not the lowest in other parts of the world.) If you yourself are not an introvert, then you can be a relative, a friend of yours.
If the statistics amaze you, then, more than anything, the fact that a lot of people just pretend to be extroverts. An introvert in the nature can successfully attach his/her reference to a child's Maidan, at a high school or office corridor. Deyakі reach success to inspire self-deception, accept until now the song moment in life - death, the stage of the "empty nest" or the removal of the unspent recession - which allows you to live like this Try to raise this topic with friends that you know, and you will see how many people, beyond their own knowledge, respect themselves as introverts, regardless of the analysis of their behavior in view of your stereotypical manifestations.
Looking back at everything that has been said, I become absolutely aware of why a lot of introverts are attracted to others and to themselves in their rightful guise. Our ability to rule is a system of values, which I call the “ideal extrovert”, but everywhere there is a change, that the ideal “I” is to blame for being comradely, dominating and inspired, which one feels in the center of respect. It looks like an archetypal model, an extrovert shows the prevail of divinities, a rhyme is an obscurity, and a mindfulness is a dubious one. Vіn schilyaєtsya to shvydkih rіshen, nezvjajuchi on the high ymovіrnіst їhnёї khibnostі, good pratsyuє in komandі and not maє problems іz socializatsієyu. We need to think that we value individuality, even as most of us have only one type of specialness that calls out our zakhoplennya - people, as it sounded to make it difficult, as it were to work on the robots for the achievement of the goal. Of course, we allow all the gifted divaka-loners, who create companies in garages, to show their specialty as if they are always welcome, but if there are more blames from the rule - our tolerance is expanding, call on them, to whom it is possible to be richly rich, but on apply for the price.
Introversion, like and її "cousin brothers" - sensitivity, seriousness and sorom'irritability, is respected as a different sort, which is not enough not to go beyond the norm, and calls out rozcharuvannya. The life of introverts in the world of an ideal extrovert guesses the life of a woman in a human world. They do not accept them through those who become the very core of their own particularity and signify their rightful day. Extraversion is supernaturally addictive, but we have turned it into a single standard, to which I am to blame.
The basis of the standard of the ideal extrovert is confirmed by many achievements, although these data were not combined by a single visnovk. It has been reported, for example, that balakuch people (13) are respected as intelligent, beautiful, and smart as friends. With this meaning, the pace of promotion (14), and її thickness: people, as if to speak fluently, are supposed to be competent and acquisitive in pairs with those who speak correctly. A similar trend can be followed in other cases: balakuchi people (15) always create the enemy of the intelligent and accepting of the couples, the lower of their mothers are brothers, without respect for the common sense of the native peoples garni ideas And Tim, how much good the people have moved their language. Sense the word “introvert” by typing a negative note: in the course of one informal experiment (16) conducted by the psychologist Lori Helgo, it was revealed that more introverted vicorists use a rich and barvy lexicon to describe warmness (“blue-green eyes”, “exotic” ) , “Vysoki Vilitsi”), but to describe an average statistical introvert, they paint a rozmit and unacceptable picture (“nezgrabny”, “bezbarvny”, “with a filthy coat”).
In my opinion, I will peacefully impregnate pardon, blindly swaying the ideal of extraversion. Acts of the greatest human ideas, works of art and winemaking - take the theory of evolution if you want, or Vincent van Gogh's "Sonyashniki", or personal computers, - appeared in quiet, thoughtful people, like buildings adjusting to their inner rhythm right corners of the mind. belongings. Without іntrovertіv svіt vtrativ bi:
- Theory of gravity (17) by Sir Isaac Newton;
- Theory of viability (18) by Albert Enstein;
– verse "Another Step" (19) by William Butler Yeats;
- Nocturne by Frederic Chopin (20);
- "At the jokes of the spent hour" by Marcel Proust (21);
- "Peter Pan" (22) by James Barry;
- "1984" and "Animal Farm" by George Orwell (23);
- "Cat in the Droplet" by Dr. Seuss;
- Charlie Brown Charles Schultz (24);
- "Schindler's List", "Alien" and "Close Encounters of the Third Degree" by Steven Spielberg (25);
– Google(26) Sergius Brin and Larry Page;
- "Harry Potter" JK Rowling (27).
To the thought of the scientist-journalist Winifred Gallagher, it is better to bring about creation of outstanding works of science and science. Ні E=mc 2 , ні swedish hand angry have fun with the party-goer. Navit in such areas of activity, like finance, politics, the movement for public rights, de, it would have been necessary, extrovertedness was needed at home, deyakі vidatnі vіdatnі prorivi bli zroblenі introverts. So, at this book you will see the butts of Eleanor Roosevelt, Ela Gora, Warren Buffett, Mahatmi Gandhi and Rosie Parks - people who have not beyond, A zavdyaki to our own peculiarities.
From childhood, we spend hours at desks, arranged according to the principle of groups, which are gradually expanding, which are shaping the stars to group education, and, based on the results of such achievements, more teachers are in vvazhaє (29), that the ideal student is guilty of being an extrovert. We marvel at all the TV shows, the participants of such a show do not tell real people that are spoken to us in life; mi bachimo rock-star and outrageous presenters and blow it up on the Hanni Montani kshtalt and Carly Shay iCarly. Find a little Sid from "Sid the Science Kid", which is funded by PBS, who can serve as an excellent preschooler, starts his day in the garden by dancing in the hallway at the same time with friends. (“Check out my ruhi! I am the rock of the star!”)
Having become mature, someone from us starts practicing in companies, how to help team gri and terrify us to practice in offices without partitions under the care of chiefs, as the most valuable is to live smarter with people. To hang out with service gatherings, mi goitres unceremoniously hang yourself for whatever handy nagoda. Veterans, who are supposed to look like finances, often appear to be already inspired by people, it is possible to inspire them too much. Artists Whose Robots Embellish exhibition halls modern galleries, having taken a significant pose, flaunt at the entrance to the chudernatskie branne. The authors, whose books are seen - if they were respected by the marvelous kind of samatniks, - today they have to bring their talent to speak at talk shows and press conferences. (You wouldn’t have read the whole book, as if I hadn’t gone far enough to see that I was a good pseudo-extrovert, so that I could take care of її slipping.)
The introvert, singly, had to stick with a ruinous influx on the psyche of all of them ahead of time. Maybe, traplyalos at the children's hearing, like the fathers wail for the rubbish of their child. (Why can’t you be like the boys from Kennedy’s homeland? You often feel like a father in one of the people I have taught.) deakі creatures everywhere pull on their portable shackle - why do deakі people shy away like that. “Your respect, I felt like a child, do ring at my wahs, seeming that I’m lazy, stupid, plump, boring,” write one of the members of the “Introvert’s Sheds” online sleeper. - At that hour, if I began to understand the introversion of my nature, part of me already recognized the infusion of perekonannya, that I was not in order. Kindly understand the grain of sumnivu and wake up yogo forever.
You can inspire a grown-up person with a whole bunch of deacons to prove your conscience, instilling a request for resentment at the melancholy reading of a book. Or maybe you like to dine on your own in restaurants and would not like to catch a look at other people on your own. Otherwise, it often seems to you that you too often "go into yourself", that calm and thoughtful people often smell.
I realized that they can be called in one word - thinkers.
I especially worked, as it is important for an hour to introverts to discover new skills and how successfully after the stench to stop them. For more than ten years I have conducted trainings for the most demanding public (corporate lawyers, hedge fund managers, university students and friendly couples) on how to conduct negotiations. Naturally, my trainings were focused on the main points: how to get ready for negotiations, if you try to persevere the proposition, how to behave, how to act on the other side: “Wait a minute to go.” And yet, I helped clients to better understand themselves and more successfully win their potential.
My greatest client was a Wall Street lawyer. Quiet and mrіyliva Laura was uniquely respectful and did not tolerate aggression. By some miraculous feat, she managed to graduate from Harvard Law School - for her suvorim mischief, it is busy to pass at the majestic amphitheatres, which are attached to the gladiatorial battles. (One time, under the strain, Laura was driven straight to the path for a couple.) At the same time, in the real world, she was not worried that it was possible to protect the interests of her clients with such an onslaught, like the stink of that one was knocked out.
Through the first three years of work, like a young lawyer in a company, he did not have time to change his admission. And once a senior lawyer, whom she helped out by going to the entrance, and Lori happened to take responsibility for conducting even serious negotiations. Laura represented one American industrial company, as she did not manage to pay off the bank position and was able to think about new minds; from the other side of the negotiating table sat a lawyer for the syndicate of bankers, who had seen his position.
Laura, for joy, would have liked to snuggle up under the fortune-telling table, but she thought better of it. Husband, albeit nervously, she took her place, spreading herself among her clients: head consultant and senior financial officer. Needless to say, those who fell in love with Lori's clients - the Vishukans and other people, were even more excited about other clients of the company, like they behaved like Volodarians of the world. In the past, Lori happened to be the head consultant at once to see a group of Yankees, before that she helped him pick a handbag from his sister's gift. And now you must come in a few miles - the very same social interaction was to the soul of Laura - it was like a distant dream. On the opposite side of the table sat nine ragged bankers in expensive suits at once with their lawyer - a woman from square pediments, but with friendly manners. This woman, obviously not a fearful dozen, immediately said to the great promo about those, how happy Lori's clients are: even if they are given the opportunity to accept the minds of bankers. Behind his words, from his side, there was a namingly magnanimous proposition.
Everyone checked what Laura would say at the end of the day, but nothing fell on her mind. And she just sat and blinked. Under the respectful glances of all those present. Lori's clients spun around in their chairs. At the brain, the women flew with an ominous stake of ominous thoughts: "I am afraid for such a work, not joking, I am thinking too much." The man was thrashing about, as if he would have gone more for the vikonnanny of this task: she was sung in her own way, she sang, she was ready to hit the table with her fist. At school, they were called “communicative” - in the assessment scale of a seventh-grader, it’s more like a good thing, lower “sweet” for girls, and “sporty” for boys. Laura rebuked herself that this year I would have to bear the rest of the torment. Tomorrow, she's going to do a lot of poshuk new kar'єri. Ale potim Laura guessed about those that I repeated many times innocently: as an introvert, there may be unique advantages for conducting negotiations - perhaps, not on the floor of a clear expression, but not less effective. Imovirno, she was getting ready for these negotiations, like no one else. Її mova was calm, ale vpevnena, moreover she rarely spoke without thinking. M'yaka at splkuvanni, Laura could take a strong, aggressive position, seeing her for a calm and thoughtful pidkhid. And she also put food, rich food, and listened to opinions - and it’s even better at the negotiations, regardless of the type of specialty.
So Laura tried to behave naturally.
- Let's do it one more time. What are your numbers based on? - Asked out. - And what, how do we structure a loan with such a rank? .. Is it so? Are there any other options?
Laurie's cob of food was finished off with charms. Ale, in the process of stepping out, as she said, the stench became more and more concrete and singing, demonstrating that she was victorious homework I took the situation to the smallest details. With this, Laura lost her true style: she did not raise her voice and did not exercise self-control. Shchoraz, if the bankers were talking about a wrong idea, it showed them its unconstructiveness.
- Isn't there only one solution? Maybe varto shukati alternative?
Step by step, the atmosphere in the room changed, exactly as it is written in the manuals for conducting negotiations. The bankers stopped talking and trying to give their own respect, so that they would play in a group, in which Laura felt out of her own way, and began to discuss without intermediary.
The conversation was still trilling, but the parties, like before, could not go forward. One of the bankers at the anger of the viletiv from the room, spreading papers on his way. Laura ignored this demarche richly, why the one who simply did not know how to respond to a new one. After all, someone said that at that critical moment, she won miraculously one of the techniques of "negotiation jiu-jitsu"; Prote won nothing more than that, as if you were sounding quiet people in our loud world.
Zreshtoyu, the parties laid down the favor. The bankers left the day, Lori's client's lovers rushed to the airport, and she herself went home and, silently muttering with a book on the sofa, tried to forget about all the vicissitudes of the day that had passed.
The attacking wound was telephoned by the head lawyer of the bankers - that very woman with a massive slit - and urged him to work. “In life, she didn’t shake the people, as if she would be a post and with whom she firmly stood on her own,” said the woman. And a day later, the clerk at the bank phoned Lori and squealed, chi could not have given the legal firm to run a good company. “We used to need a person, we’d rather house ourselves about the favors, but we don’t allow him to obscure our mind,” he said.
Dorimuyuchis soft approach, Laura got a new business partner for her company and the proposition of work for herself especially. Without moving your voice, you hit the table with your fist.
Today, Laura has learned to effectively master her nature, taking introversion as an invisible part of her specialness. Now the old melody about those who are quiet and unsung in themselves, sounds richer in your head. Laura is impressed that she can stand up for herself, if it happens.
What can I do on my own, buddy, what is Laura an introvert? In the beginning of writing this book, I wrote to us in front of me how to define introversion and extraversion by contemporary psychologists-prehistorians.
In 1921, the psychiatrist Carl Jung saw the monumental practice “Psychological Types” (30), de describing the fundamental features of special features - extraversion and introversion, making these terms popular. Introverts, following Jung, in the midst of the world of thoughts and inner experiences, just like extraverts - in the real world of people and objects. Introverts comprehend what they see around them, and extroverts try to become their participants. To replenish the reserve of strength, introverts need to be alone, extroverts need to be inspired, only if they stink together not enough. If you ever had to take the Isabella Myers-Briggs test (which is based on Jung's typology), which wins in rich universities and reputable companies (31), then you, obviously, already have a better idea about those I'm talking about.
And yet, what do modern times think about introversion and extraversion? It appeared that there was no single universal purpose to understand them. It is not so easy and simple to describe, as, for example, to assign the words "curly" or "flirty", we understand some of these intellects. For example, the successors of this directly in the psychology of specialness, like the Great P'yatirka (from the perspective of their concept, human specialty can be classified for five basic elements), they attribute introversion not to the wealth of inner life, but to the low significance of such and comradeship. Appointment extroversionі introversionіsnuє mayzhe stіlki f, skіlki psikhologists, yakі are engaged in special education; And all the stinks without a hint are about those whose appointment is more accurate. Some people think that Jung's ideas have lived for themselves, others - that Jungian theory is more than enough to drive the real camp of speeches.
Vtіm, z deyakyh pitan thoughts of psychologists zbіgayutsya: for example, all zgodnі z tim, scho tsі two types vіdrіznyayutsya comfortable for them step nebhіdnostі zvnіshny vpluv (32). Introverts themselves have a lot of light, they can quietly drink wine alone with a close friend, read a book or crossword puzzle. Extroverts always for the sake of being able to change with a new medium: get to know new people, ride on the licks, or play music to the bador. “Other people will always terrify you and praise you,” even a special psychologist, David Winter, explaining why a typical introvert can get ahead of the hour of admission, to read a book on the beach, instead of hanging out non-stop at parties near the road on a cruise liner. - Interaction with them calls out a little anxiety, fear, panic and stupor. A hundred people is a signifi- cantly strong imitation, a hundred books from a dozen books.
A lot of psychologists are one-sided about what powers introverts and extroverts different style roboti. Extroverts to the soul will be torn at the vikonnannya's task. The stench is smart enough to accept the swedes (and not the same) solution, feel comfortable, rozpodіlyayuchi respect among the numerical tasks, and not be afraid of rizikuvati. Extraverts enjoy the "excitement of the chase" and trophies, like wines they say, - they are penniless with status.
Introverts practice more richly, then go deeper. The stench vvazhayut for better zozeredzhuvatisya on one task at a time and vіdіznyayutsya neznіchnymi zdіbnosti to concentration. You can be vvazhat remarkably unacceptable to the magic of glory and wealth.
The type of specialty determines the style of social interaction. It is not important for extroverts to enliven the evening party and do not skimp on laughing at your heat. The stench is in the company, it is the dominance that the company will require. Extraverts think out loud and on the go, speak voluntarily, and not hear, and rarely hear the lack of words, often throwing replicas, as if they were not small to mimic. Cope with conflicts without effort, but not with self-confidence.
On the opposite side of them, introverts, wanting to often lead with significant newcomers to the secular splintering and conducted business streaks, in a day or so, during the course of intensive splintering, they begin to blame that shkoduva that they didn’t leave home. They use their social energy for better stained glass on close friends, colleagues and relatives. Hear more, seem less, think, first open your mouth, and often hang your thoughts on the sheet more often, less verbally. Conflicts are not my element. Some of them don’t like stupid rhymes or anything, but they enjoy deep discussions of whimsical topics.
What kind of qualities are mildly attributed to introverts? The word "introvert" is often considered synonymous (33) with the words "self-taught" and "misanthrope". Possibly, deyakі introverti can rightly be led by a similar rank, prote zdebіsh tse absolutely good people. In addition, it is not obov'yazkovo, that all introverts are sorom'yazlivy in nature. Sorom'yazlivist is born of fear of social disgrace (34) and fear of humiliation, introverted people simply give priority to a quiet and calm environment. Sorom's anger calls out even more painful experience, introversion - no. So many people confuse these two understandings, that which names are often manifested in that very person (35) (although psychologists have not shared a single thought about those, which the world represents the figures). Деякі фахівці розглядають цю пару характеристик, як осі в системі координат, розміщуючи інтроверсію-екстраверсію на осі Х, а рівень тривожності на осі Y. Таким чином, утворюються чотири квадрати, що відповідають чотирьом можливим комбінаціям якостей: спокійний екстраверт, неспокійний екстраверт, спокійний інтроверт and restless introvert. In other words, you can be a timid introvert, like Barbra Streisand, a bright individuality with an all-important stage fright, but you can’t be a sarcastic introvert at Bill Gates’s kshtalt, which, like a voice, has little respect for the mind of the aliens.
The heroine of the American television series about a little girl, broadcast on the Disney channel. Note. ed.
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Obviously, only this reason does not apply to those who become an introvert or an extrovert, but the role played an important role in laying the character. In one situation, temperament may be more involved, in another dovkilla. Like always in psychophysiology, there are more than one reason.
Ale is not a blink-like body. Another prefrontal cortex, which helps us, in the middle, overcome ungrounded fears. Tim is not smaller, the prefrontal cortex doesn't care about the amygdala-like body, but itself to "extinguish signals". Tom in stressful situation For a long time, the fear of heights that you can turn around has been forgotten, the shards of the prefrontal cortex are occupied by important right.
Another key distinction between introverts and extroverts is the level of activity in the structure of the brain, which is often referred to by the term " hunting system". In introverts, the stench is less active, as a result, the stench is less "over-excited." Moreover, to exercise respect, the stench is not less sensitive to the fence, it’s just better to control your cravings and put food “why do I need carrots so much?”.
QUOTE FROM THE BOOKS (about porn ... erotica).
In the course of the investigation, it was established that people, who showed erotic photographs in front of a gambling thunder, risk more, lower, who were shown neutral images, for example, tables and styles. It appears, pretending to be like a hedge, it doesn’t seem to be connected with a looked at photograph, it activates the system of desire, which functions for the participation of dopamine, and the children stun us more unusually. (Perhaps, the main argument is a reconciliation of the barrenness of the fence of pornographic images at work.)
QUOTE FROM THE BOOKS.
Our ability to rule is a system of values, which I call the “ideal extrovert”, but everywhere there is a change, that the ideal “I” is to blame for being comradely, dominating and inspired, which one feels in the center of respect. The extrovert shows the difference between thoughts, the risk - the odds, and the stubbornness - the doubts. Vіn shilyaєєєє to shvidkih rіshen, not respecting the high spirits, good practice in the team and no problems from socialization. We need to think that we value individuality, even as the majority of the vipadki have only one type of specialness, our zakhoplennya - people, as it sounded to make it difficult, as it is to work on the robots for the achievement of the goal.
Obviously, we allow all gifted divacs-the same, that companies create in garages, to show their specialty like they are invariably, but rather blaming the rule - our tolerance is expanding, call on them, to whom it’s possible to be richly rich, apply for the price.
For a moment, those who in Asia are all the same - the ideal is a thinker-introvert, the activity of that zvichka speaks in a singsong, thoughtless way, is respected by a sign of nearness, empty.
Vzagali, for the sake of and hints of distribution according to all books, ale mixed in cups of mirkuvan and butts. Prote deyaki chapters should be given as a whole, directly, specifically.Five times, for example, there was a subtitle "beyond the boundaries of temperament (and the secret of public speaking for introverts)". I want the "secret" itself to be examined here closer to the end of the chapter, and I know it's not a secret ... But I won't quote it. Zayviy ghost. read the book itself;
the rest of the The book (in three editions) is called "How to love, how to practice" and revenge on food for kshtalt "like an introvert splintering with an extrovert (and navpaki)". Like in 14 words, then the introvert will have to go into the pseudo-extrovert mode, and the extrovert will follow it, sho, not yak to speak yogo spіvrozmovnik and vrakhovuvati, that talk tete-a-tete to give great retribution to them both.
The rest gave a lot of devotions to the food "like a child-introvert," and, I think, if you were some kind of father, you'll be korisna. How do we practice in schools with introverts? Entries from a student for kshtalt “Olena has little to do with other teachings! Tse serious problem!” - Zvichayna on the right. The fathers are trying to understand the logic of violence against the psyche of a child, which is wrong. Aje through the whole book a red line to pass the thought that introversion is not a disease, it is not a vice, it’s just another way to accept the world and interact with it.
First of all, it is written in the American style. So be it a thought to grow up to a subatomic level, you start just physically getting into it. Є vіdchuttya, scho navit not 10 * , and all 15% -20% can be withdrawn without shkodi. From the other side, only my thought.
* The honor of Stephen King from the book "How to write a book", "clean work = black - 10%". A wonderful book, I recommend it as a bonus after reading up to here.
In a different way, just use an indirect style, it’s possible, but it’s the shifting fault. If you want something good, the book becomes full of reading.
In third and foremost, DC Comics fans are overwhelmed, marveling at such a quote from the book: "... equal to the self of Batman, the remaining son of Krypton ...". No, maybe it was conceived to mix two franchises for the sake of heat, but it still looks more like a single. I won’t block and I can do the self-made translations.
For introverts, it’s better to solve the problems of self-identification, to grow a visnovka, to take care of it, like, change the style of organizing work, to grow up among the brethren. The book is right in the plan of practical pleasures, so in the motivational plan, if you think about it. Surely, through the entire book, the thought passes, that introversion is not a vice and is not enough, it is necessary to simply learn how to win over your strengths. Navіt yakscho htos z books less than tsiyu thought, tse win.
Extroverts - to that, judging by the doslіdzhen, introverts become like a third to half of the population. Among your colleagues, it’s melodiously introverted, so some of them may behave like a pseudo-extrovert. Without the need to play a role, stench could be more comfortable, and therefore more effective. Would you like to live in the world without Newton or Einstein, Linus Torvalds or Bill Gates?
So now you just don’t know the truth! Tim is bigger, I could not in such a stylistic article overwrite everything that is in this book. Read, rozmirkovyte i zrobіt tsey svіt hoch troch better.
P.S. Velika Dyakuyu
To all members of my homeland
The nation, in the same skin as General Patton, would have reached no more success, lower people, in the same skin as Vincent van Gogh. I would like to think that our planet needs athletes, philosophers, sex symbols, artists, women; It has its own role for sane and callous, rational and easily vulnerable people. The world needs those who dedicate their lives to the specifics of the work of blue worms in dogs, as well as those who can briefly imagine the cherry blossoms in the field of fourteen warehouses, or dedicate twenty-five sides to the description of our little lad, kissing your mother's bed before going to bed.
The presence of some clearly expressed talent to witness that it was sacrificed...
Allan Sean
Vіn vіhvalyає vіdvagu Parks and obіymaє її. All the whole hour, you will quietly stand in order with him, and there is not enough presence to inhale enthusiasm and strength in NATO. The Association is launching a global campaign to boycott buses for 381 days. People go pishki pratsyuvati tsili mi chi, voting on the roads, asking strangers to bring them. They change the course of American history with their behavior.
I have always shown myself Rosa Parks as a stately woman with a wink in her eyes - in a word, such a person, as it was easy to hear in a bus, full of passengers. However, after її death in 2005, there were 92 years of death in 92 years, and the obituaries described її as a woman of small stature, a soft-spoken woman, with an accepting character. It was said about her that she was "modest and stingy", ale small "left widvagu". In the descriptions, there were a lot of phrases such as "deep humility" and "quiet steadfastness". What does it mean to be quiet and steady? What do you think about it? How can you be modest at the same time і vіdvamim?
Parks, it seems, seeing this paradox, called her biography "Quiet Strength" - and she called us terrified to look at her statement about strength and steadfastness. Why is it quiet can't be strong? What can you do from peace, about which we didn’t guess before?
Our life is determined by character not less strongly, less by race or status. І the main rice of specialness - “pіvdenim and pіvnіchnym pole of temperament”, in the words of one venerable one, - belonging to an extroverted or introverted type. The degrees of diversity of these traits are poured into our behavior, into the choice of a stake of friends and acquaintances, the manner of leading a rozmov, the way to overcome problems and show love. Skill to extraversion and introversion infuse the choice of profession and success in them. She is the one who signifies our responsibility to take care of physical rights; vyznaє skhilnіst up to adultery; vplivaє zdatnіst normally functioning for the minds of insufficient sleep; zmushu navchatisya at their pardons, or pragmatic risky grills on the exchange market, and also spitting on the building, pacifying in the face of satisfaction; Be a good leader and explore alternative ways. Mustaches are conditioned by the mechanism of functioning of the nervous system, and by individual features. Today's introversion and extraversion are one of the most deeply studied features of particularity, and the interest of psychologists to tsієї those, like before, even higher. For the rest of the years, for the help of modern technologies, the successors made a lot of marvelous revelations.
Interest in nutrition about temperament may be even more deeply rooted. The poets and philosophers sang over the character of a person from the cob of hours - we can judge from historical documents. Descriptions of both types of special features are found in the Bible (9), in the works of doctors of Ancient Greece and Rome. Deyakі evolutionary psychologists stverdzhuyut (10) that the application of extroverted and introverted behavior of individuals can be known in the world of creatures: introverts and extraverts grow like the middle of fruit flies, and the middle of high-rhesus monkeys. Like in the case with the other important pairs of proportions - the man and the woman, the Skhod and the Sunset, the liberal and the conservative - the people would be significantly less diverse without two special types.
Introvert. How to win the peculiarity of your character Kane Susan
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Mustache people are different - with this thought you can’t help but wait. Psychologists and other fahіvtsі navіt dіlyat people of different categories, scho allows you to understand as better as possible, and you know pіdhіd before them, to help in folding situations.
Kane Susan is a marvelous writer, that person, who devoted so much of her time to the development of introversion. So she was engaged in the training of people in the conduct of negotiations. Why were suffices individual individuals and find companies. Henceforth, it is impossible for the drive not to trust the material of this writer, which was already reportedly made by the book “Introverti. Like vikoristati singularity of his character. It will not be difficult to read only to introverts, if they would like to understand a little bit for themselves, and for other people, the work of such people is involved in conducting negotiations, creating presentations and sales, and just talking to people.
Apparently, extroverts are active people, like to know their own worth, to be able to think practically about being a kind of person. It is easy for them to negotiate, present, stink well in sales. Introvert - it's straight forward. The specialty will give priority to self-reliance, low-profile company, quiet office, and not squabbling with clients. But with all the introverts, they can become successful and even happy, so that they can be victorious for their own good. And as for yourself, you can read at the book “Introvert. How to celebrate the peculiarity of your character, ”Kane Susan wrote to me.
Today, in order to induce a career, it is necessary for the mother not only to have knowledge, but also to have a stubborn character, a showcase, to show one’s point of view, and also to cope with important and embarrassing situations. Tse not under the power of the best for introverts. Ale Kane Susan is aware that introverts are not just able to cope with them, but they get out easier and more quickly in difficult situations, less extroverts. The very thing about it is revealed by his robot “Introvert. Like vikoristati singularity of his character.
Also, this year's suspense imposes different stereotypes that only strong in spirit reach the success that only comradely people can gain respect for investors. And all the “quiet” people are told to sit in the offices and take away pennies. If you see the rubbish of a wicked person, if it’s important for you to communicate with people, if you want to reach unbelievable heights both in career and in life, you definitely need to familiarize yourself with the book “Introvert. Like vikoristati singularity of his character. The author gives advice on all popular nutrition about introversion, and also helps introverts to get rid of themselves, but not to be successful in the pursuit of results.
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In one "traveler" with nutrition of beauty it is written: "Passers-by will never understand, how little you are reasonable and charming, as your old-looking looker will not tell them about it."
If you think smarter, - she said to me, - then talk about the weather, what’s wrong with you, like talk about moral values, about morality.
Right, not in the fact that I am so reasonable, - said Einstein, who, to the point of speech, was an introvert. - I just spend more than an hour on the cherry day.
Hear more, seem less, think, first open your mouth, and often hang your thoughts on the sheet more often, less verbally. Conflicts are not my element.
Like you are sitting by the yard under a tree, like others are clattering with kelikhs on the terrace, ymovirnish, like an apple falling on your own head.
